Out of the comfort zone
“Rather than always staying in one place, I like to get the hell out of my comfort zone, to liberate myself.” For Van der Graaf, to move to Asia was to bid farewell to his comfort zone.
He traveled to Macau in 2015 because he had met Arwen Yang online. At that time Yang was an assistant professor at Macau University of Science and Technology, where she taught Chinese culture.
When Van der Graaf learned that Yang was from Taiwan, the only thing about the country that came to mind was that the Transformers toys he used to play with as a child were made there. He gathered some information about Taiwan via Google, but never did he foresee that one day he would become a Taiwanese citizen.
Van der Graaf video-chatted with Yang every day. After a month he flew to Macau from the Netherlands to see her, despite having never visited Asia before. After three romantic months together, they decided to get married. Van der Graaf knew this was a gamble, but looking back, he is happy that he did it.
Yang, who says with a smile that she and Van der Graaf were head over heels in love, soon became pregnant. After their daughter, Sky, was born in late 2016, the couple decided to relocate to Taiwan.
However, moving back to Taiwan was a huge challenge for Yang. “I felt the most profound sense of loss that I have ever experienced in my life.” Yang has always distinguished herself academically. Having obtained a degree in pharmacy from National Taiwan University, she went on to study for a PhD in Chinese at Peking University. It was therefore a drastic change to go from expounding on Mencius and Zhuangzi in a university classroom to becoming a penny-pinching housewife. In order to benefit from the help of Yang’s parents, the couple decided to settle in Xinying.
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