Comprehensive support at home
JADWRP also frequently offers professional development seminars for teachers, where it clarifies points of confusion.
For instance, quite a few teachers are upset that relatively few of the immigrant mothers participate in school activities. How can they attract more of them to come?
Association staffers suggest that teachers first go to call on those students’ families in the home, to ascertain whether the mother really doesn’t want to go or whether the husband’s family simply isn’t happy when she leaves home. They also recommend that when creating activities for immigrants, it is best to provide bilingual services. When visiting homes, ideally go with an interpreter, so that you can learn what the immigrant women are really feeling and grasp their true needs.
Teachers point out that one reason why many children of immigrant mothers aren’t strong performers at school is that their home environments aren’t as supportive of education. Their mothers don’t understand Chinese and are busy working all day long, and the fathers likewise don’t offer much support. It ends up being the illiterate grandmothers who spend all day with the children. Under these circumstances it’s no wonder that it becomes hard to supervise and support their schoolwork.
Ho says that immigrant mothers also understand that “education is children’s only channel to advance themselves,” but their husbands aren’t willing to take on any more responsibility for monitoring their children’s educations. Consequently, it’s essential that children participate in supplementary instruction after regular school lets out. What’s more, government and school support ought to be extended to helping immigrant spouses in their daily lives via language study, professional development courses, career guidance, and marriage and family counseling.
JADWRP has also come across some children who, despite realizing that both the teachers in their multicultural classes and their mothers are Southeast Asian immigrants, are unwilling to acknowledge that their mothers are foreigners. Their eyes convey hostility to the teachers: “I don’t respect you and don’t want to deal with you.”
It often turns out that the mothers of these children had long been mocked and ridiculed by their husband’s family, or else they buckled under the heavy burdens of both working a job and caring for the family. They decided to leave, getting a divorce and returning to Vietnam. At such times, the children have not only lost a mother, but they also have often taken to heart negative messages such as “your mother ran away because she doesn’t love you” or “she’s crazy.”
“Those psychological wounds borne by children were created from social discrimination and the ignorance of adults,” says To Ngoc Anh. All JADWRP’s community workers can do is to console the children by saying: “Your mother has also been deeply hurt. No matter where she is, she still loves you.” They also remind teachers to strengthen classroom support for these children and to ask for help from social welfare organizations when needed.
Mmm, why does Burmese cooking smell so good? The children of Xingnan Elementary in New Taipei City visit one of the many Southeast Asian restaurants on nearby Huaxin Street as student journalists.